When I turned 21, I felt like I’d really reached the pinnacle of my life thus far. Since I was able to comprehend the magnitude of such an important birthday, sometime during my early high school years, a glorious celebration of reaching such a milestone was definitely on the cards.
It seemed the age at which you finally become an adult (legally you do), where life was mapped out before you in all its glory, when your childhood years were finally behind you and people were obligated to start taking you seriously.
I had matriculated with 4 A’s (what a keen bean), discovered the wacky world of English and media studies at university and was about to enter into my ‘serious’ fourth year, as a post graduate student studying Marketing Management. You didn’t get any more adult than that. Ed and I had just started dating, I was considering a work-abroad trip at the end of my studies and looking forward to my big birthday bash.
It sure is amazing what hindsight teaches you.
10 years on I’m sitting here with a brand new baby, a toddler who’s just started school, a house with a bond attached to it, a happy marriage of almost 6 years and infinite wisdom of what these last 10 years have really taught me.
While age may appear to be a milestone (hello 25, you crafty old quarter-century; oh hey there 30, I’ve got a year on you now), it’s just a number. You never, ever stop learning and growing. At 21 I thought I knew what I wanted, where I was going… but now at 31 I’m only just discovering myself – as an adult! I think my husband – who is turning 40 later this year – will say the same. And I can definitely say that my dad, who is in his mid-sixties and has retired and has had two hip replacements this year, will agree too.
You never ‘finally grow up’, but rather, you keep on growing into who God has intended you to be. That’s why it’s foolish to wish away time as every bit of your life is an opportunity to expand your mind, gain some experience and learn from perspective.
And so after all of this wonderful reflection, it’s time to reflect on how I can achieve my 21-year old body back now that it has been through two pregnancies, two births and a serious lack of decent training over the past 3+ years…!
Photos taken by Love Made Visible.